Forgiven people forgive people

LifeApps_16x9_webAt some point in our lives we all struggle with forgiveness, and for some of you that point might be right now. We all struggle with surrendering our desire to hurt another person for hurting us. But as we discussed on Sunday in “The Forgiveness App” in our Life Apps series as we explored Matthew 18:21-35Forgiven people forgive people. When we understand and grasp the weight of our own sin and rebellion against God and the extent to which He has forgiven us through the cross of Jesus, it begins to put everything in perspective.

Jeff Simunds, one of our leaders in Northshore’s Recovery & Support Ministry, shared these steps of forgiveness. He has guided many people through this process.

  1. Identify the offense and specifically name it.
  2. Feel the pain from the age of the heart that was hurt. We might have a good relationship with the person that hurt us today and we may even rationalize it away (they didn’t mean it, etc.), but the heart that was wounded wasn’t the adult us, the heart that was wounded was the ___ year old heart. While our heads can rationalize it, our hearts still feel the hurt and the pain.
  3. Bring any anger, pain, bitterness, and hatred you have toward them and give it to Jesus. Forgive the person with Jesus there with you.
  4. Release them from any right of revenge or repayment from you
  5. Release them from any expectations that they’ll change or that they’ll apologize. Remember, forgiveness is not just about the other person. Forgiveness doesn’t require anything of the person who wounded us. It’s not based on their apologizing or having remorse. We forgive them regardless of their response. In addition, reconciliation is separate from forgiveness and for reconciliation to happen there may need to be heartfelt remorse and apology (depending on the level of the offense).
  6. If you can pray that God will bless them with more of Him, then you know that you’re heart is doing well with forgiving them.

I would also encourage you to memorize Ephesians 4:32 – “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” It will help remind you that forgiven people forgive people.

If you need help with forgiveness, contact our Recovery & Support Ministry. From individual help to support groups, we can help you connect with Jesus’ power to move forward.

New Series: Life Apps

LifeApps_16x9_webWe download apps on our smartphones and tablets all of the time—social media apps, weather apps, game apps. Often we download these apps but never use them. And some we find indispensable for living in a digital age. Did you know that God has given us some indispensable apps for living life well in relationships with other people? Let’s face it. We need those apps. Relationships can be rewarding, but they can also be challenging. Our new Life Apps series will focus on what we need to do to have healthy relationships in our families, with our friends, in the workplace, in our neighborhoods and in our church community. From choosing to trust to choosing to forgive to choosing to encourage, this 6-week series will be filled with practical, biblical wisdom on the apps you need to use so that you and those around you can experience relationships God’s way.

Here are the Life Apps we’ll discuss:

Oct 5 – Application is Everything

Oct 12 – The Trust App

Oct 19 – The Authenticity App

Oct 26 – The Humility App

Nov 2 – The Forgiveness App

Nov 9 – The Encouragement App

I want to encourage you to invite a friend or family member to this series. I know that you have people in your life who are struggling in relationships. This will be a very practical and applicable series, but most importantly, we will introduce them to Jesus and the grace and hope that He alone brings, even in the toughest of relational challenges.

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