How’s it going in control your anger this week? As we discussed in Sunday’s Respectable Sins message on “Anger,” you have to get control of your anger before it gets control of you. James 1:19-20 is a helpful passage to memorize and have at the ready when an opportunity for anger presents itself.
“This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.”
In addition, remember the steps for uprooting anger:
- See the Warning Signs – elevated heart rate and blood pressure, tense muscles, raised voice. Your body has its own “Check Engine Light” to warn you of increasing anger.
- Wait a Moment – count to 10. Count to 100. If you need to, count to 1,000. Remember what Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
- Pray for Love – while you are waiting, pray to Jesus for love. Pray for the love that Jesus has loved you with to spill over to the person who is angering you.
- Get Help – if you struggle with chronic anger issues, get some help. Our Recovery & Support Ministry can help you process some of what’s behind your anger and help you move to a place of freedom from anger.
- Trust Jesus – at the end of the day, all of our anger challenges are rooted in “unfaith.” Make this your prayer: “Jesus, right now I am struggling with anger, and I need your help. Not only do I need to be reminded of Your love for me and for this person, but I also need help trusting You. My identity is in You. You are ultimately in control. And Jesus, You were horribly mistreated on the cross for my sin. You know how I feel right now, and I put all of this in Your hands. Jesus, I trust You. Amen.”
As you rehearse James 1:19-20 as well as the steps for uprooting anger, might the Spirit of God remind you that you are a new creation in Christ. You have a new power within you to combat that old anger. Together, let’s press into the sin that hinders us from running the race Jesus has marked out for us.
I’m praying for you!