As we continue in our series God’s Good Design, here are some resources that have deeply influenced my personal theology and pastoral ministry regarding relationships, marriage, family, and human sexuality.
Made for More: An Invitation to Live in God’s Image by Hannah Anderson – one of the reviews of Anderson’s book wrote, “Here is a book for women that has something to teach men. Made for More is wise and well-written, and I heartily commend it to everyone made in the image of God, male and female alike.”
The Meaning of Marriage by Tim & Kathy Keller – this is an incredible book on God’s design for marriage. The Keller’s intellect and practical application makes is one of the best books out there on why God created marriage and how we can become more like Jesus.
Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas – this has been a staple of my marriage library for years. You’ve likely heard me ask the question, “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?” That question is from this book. It’s one of the best books out there for viewing marriage as a laboratory for spiritual formation.
God, Marriage, & Family by Andreas J. Kosternberger – this is a scholarly yet accessible treatment of a theology of family and marriage. With topics ranging from marriage in the Old and New Testaments, divorce and remarriage, singleness, and the Bible’s treatment of homosexuality, Kosternberger’s book is a good reference resource if you want to dig deeper into what the Bible says directly about these topics.
What Does the Bible Really Teach about Homosexuality by Kevin DeYoung – If you were to buy one resource to go deeper into understanding the Bible’s position regarding human sexuality and homosexuality, this should be the book.DeYoung examines key biblical passages in both the Old and New Testaments and the Bible’s overarching teaching regarding sexuality. He also responds to popular objections raised by Christians and non-Christians alike.
Is God Anti-Gay? by Sam Allberry – thoughtfully written by a British pastor who has struggled with same-sex attraction. Allberry’s book is short and readable, and like DeYoung’s book mentioned above, he clearly and simply explains what the Bible has to say about marriage, sexuality, and same-sex attraction. You can also watch a talk that Sam gave at the Village Church on this topic and his book.
“The Bible & Same-Sex Relationships” by Tim Keller – a concise, thoughtful review of two current books by authors who believe the Bible allows or supports same-sex relationships and the six arguments these books and those like them make.
The Bible and Homosexual Practice by Robert Gagnon – viewed as the definitive biblical and theological work on the subject, Gagnon’s book provides the most thorough and in-depth analysis to date of the biblical texts regarding homosexuality.
Making Gay Okay: How Rationalizing Homosexual Behavior is Changing Everything by Robert Reilly – writing from a philosophical and socio-political viewpoint, Reilly explores the fundamental views of reality. His book focuses on the current battle between the primacy of reason (order and intrinsic design/purpose) vs. the primacy of the will (making everything what we wish it to be). Reilly’s conclusion about the homosexual debates is that it’s really about “the Nature of reality itself.”
Out of a Far Country by Christopher Yuan & Angela Yuan – a heartfelt story about a gay son’s journey to God and a broken mother’s search for hope. “God calls all who are lost to come home to him. Casting a compelling vision for holy sexuality, Out of a Far Country speaks to prodigals, parents of prodigals, and those wanting to minister to the gay community” (from the book’s back cover).
The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert: An English Professor’s Journey into Christian Faith by Rosaria Champagne Butterfield – the author was a respected tenured english professor at Syracuse University who was living with her lesbian partner. “Then, in her late 30s, Rosaria encountered something that turned her world upside down-the idea that Christianity, a religion that she had regarded as problematic and sometimes downright damaging, might be right about who God was, an idea that flew in the face of the people and causes that she most loved. What follows is a story of what she describes as a ‘train wreck’ at the hand of the supernatural. These are her secret thoughts about those events, written as only a reflective English professor could” (description from Amazon). You can read also Christianity Today’s article about Butterfield entitled “My Train Wreck Conversion.”
My recommendation would be to purchase one or two of these resources and spend the next few weeks and months reading and exploring this topics presented further.