This past Sunday in our Bad Dates, Roommates & Soulmates series, we talked about “Happily Ever After… & Other Myths” and discovered God’s design for marriage. The key to experiencing marriage as God designed it is to be a GIVER. The three marriage myths (see the pic above) we unpacked are all about being a “get-er” (what do I get out of this relationship?), whereas God’s design is for us to be a giver. In Ephesians 5:21-33, Paul teaches us about the importance and interplay of mutual submission and sacrifice, as well as love and respect. If you want to live out God’s design for marriage, then one question that can change everything is, “What can I do to help?” This one question tells other people that you’re in the relationship to be a giver and not a get-er.
Here are some great resources for exploring some of these topics further:
The Myth of Happily Ever After vs. A Biblical Worldview Perspective – An article that more fully explores marriage myths
The Love and Respect Principle – A great seven-article (short) series on love and respect
Sacred Marriage – My all-time favorite book on marriage. It was a game-changer in my own marriage!
Three final, important things: (1) This Sunday, we’re talking about communication and conflict. It will be a very practical look at personality differences in relationships and how they can actually work to your advantage. (2) If you haven’t signed up for the Becoming Soulmates one-day marriage event with Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott, you don’t want to miss it. And (3) if you need help in your marriage, fill out this confidential marriage help questionnaire, and we will get you the help you need!