On Sunday, January 22 as we continued in our Desperate Days series, we discussed “Good & Bad Counsel.” I hope and pray that it was helpful in giving you ideas on what to say and what not to say when a friend or family member is going through grief and suffering. Here are some resources that I’ve used over the years for understanding the experience and process of grief:
1. Experiencing Grief – H. Norman Wright. Written to encourage anybody who’s recently endured a loss, this brief, powerful book leads readers through five essential stages: shock, rage, despair, release, and finally peace.
2. Shattered Dreams – Larry Crabb. If God loves me, why is life so painful? Exploring the biblical account of Naomi, Crabb explains how God longs to awaken his children to the dream beneath the rubble of tragedy–changing lives for good and forever. Encounter your closest Friend in the midst of difficulty and learn to live beyond life’s deepest pain.
3. A Grace Disguised – Jerry Sittser. In one terrible instant, a drunk-driving accident claimed three generations of Sittser’s family—his mother, wife, and daughter—while he and his remaining children were left to survive together. In this powerfully moving testimony, he offers hope to fellow Christians who have suffered loss through illness, divorce, or death.
4. Disappointment with God – Philip Yancey. Yancey deals with some of life’s toughest questions in the midst of faith and suffering. Is God unfair? Is God silent? Is God hidden? If God desires our love, why does he sometimes put obstacles in the way? Why does he seem so distant? What can we expect from him after all? No part of the Bible goes unstudied in the authors search for God’s hidden nature in this compelling and profound book.
5. When the Darkness Will Not Lift – John Piper. Even the most faithful, focused Christians can encounter periods of depression and spiritual darkness when joy seems to stay just out of reach. It can happen because of sin, satanic assault, distressing circumstances, or hereditary and other physical causes. In When the Darkness Will Not Lift, John Piper aims to give some comfort and guidance to those experiencing spiritual darkness.